Relationships

Question: Why don't we say what we mean?

I mean, what is it that holds us back from saying what we really think and feel? Is it fear or is it society or is it just that we are so well trained that we know how to filter everything that goes through our minds?

I have ever once truly said what I was thinking...and with any luck I will never go through one of those experiences again, but there was something incredibly refreshing in actually saying what I was thinking - unfiltered.

Don't get me wrong, if you ask my opinion about something I will be honest...even to the point of brutality...but I will usually filter what goes through my mind first. Before I get off track though...

I watched (500) Days of Summer tonight, and while there were moments when I questioned why I was watching it, I realized that one of the biggest problems in relationships today is communication. People don't communicate with each other...not like they really should.

We aren't open and honest from the start. We don't tell people what we are really thinking. We aren't really communicating because there is a message there that is not being sent or received. I really wish that the world would be better about communicating. I really wish that we would stop letting fear and society and all our training interfere with our communication. That we would really say what's on our hearts and on our minds. That we would live honest, frank lives.

And yet, even as I write those words, I know that I will not live up to them. Yes, I will continue to be honest and frank, but I will still filter. I won't really tell people what I really think about them. I won't communicate as I should.

I wish I could, but I know I won't. I'll try, but really when it comes right down to it, only one person was ever able to truly communicate well. He told people how it was. He spoke Truth with every word that He spoke because He was Truth. And yes, He offended people with His words - whitewashed tombs anyone?

I think that's what was so powerful about Jesus' words. He cut straight to the heart of the matter. He didn't do a song and dance around the subject, but He went straight to the point.

Oh, how I wish I could be like Him!

Until later...peace out yo! Safe

Comments

  1. Connally12 January, 2010

    Dude, I so agree with all of the above! It's true how we filter everything we say; I want to be honest and forthright in what I say and the message I convey to others, but it's so natural to tailor our words to send a specific message.

    New Years Goal: be more honest with others in my words and actions!

    Love you much, dear friend!

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